Would you rather have Michael Scott (The Office) or Ron Swanson (Parks and Recreation) as a boss? What about during a global pandemic? I had the pleasure of hosting our first content-based conversation recently which included discussion of the puzzling
question of why there are , how the confidence gap between
men and women affects our career path, and how we can learn to better celebrate our successes and support other women. Knowing that our members have very busy work and personal lives, I chose articles and podcasts instead of a book for this discussion
in an effort to allow more individuals to squeeze in time to review the materials before our meeting. We talked about research that shows ,
which leads to organizations favoring men for leadership roles. This pattern of preferring charisma persists even though of competence and emotional intelligence.
Research has also shown that regardless of the circumstances , and the between men and women could be one of the reasons why we see fewer women in executive leadership roles than men. We talked about how almost everyone manages imposter syndrome, and even if some of the tips in were known to us, such as keeping a record of accomplishments ready for annual reviews, we still need to actively remind ourselves to look at the records we saved. I would argue that self-care and imposter syndrome are related, if caring for yourself
is not a priority, then you will likely not prioritize the celebration of your accomplishments.
We’ve all seen the safety video on flights reminding us that in the case of an emergency we should first securely attach our own breathing mask before helping others to attach their masks. Yet for many women, even as we navigate this period of unprecedented
change during a global pandemic, caring for others takes precedence over caring for ourselves. Self-care becomes a skill that we need to practice, just like any other. Some theorize that women tend to first care for others because that is the way
that many of us have been socialized, and even if that is not the case, many women feel internal and external judgment that .
Our discussion of putting others' needs before our own was particularly relevant as we grapple with managing campus operations during the COVID-19 pandemic. Members discussed how they worried about the well-being of those who report to them, and were
quick to share tips for how others could take care of themselves during this uncertain time, but had a hard time scheduling in their own care.
However, our tendency to support others before ourselves could help us to create a stronger network and perhaps even support .
Building supportive, trusting relationships at work can be transformative for women, but finding “your people” who you can be vulnerable with is tough for anyone, especially women of color working in predominantly white organizations--as
this detailed. One of the first steps to finding a sense of community where trust and vulnerability are welcome, is .
The opportunity to come together for this virtual discussion reminded me that we have many shared experiences and that we are truly connected. I look forward to continuing to build community with ̽»¨Â¥ colleagues during this strange, stressful period.
In the meantime, stay well and remember to .
Ewa Nowicki (she/her/hers) is a doctoral student at Northeastern University, an education public policy fellow with the Rennie Center for Educational Research & Institute for Educational Leadership, and the chair and founder of ̽»¨Â¥'s Women's
Caucus. Ewa also serves on ̽»¨Â¥’s Public Policy Advisory Group and Student Access and Equity Committee. Her research & professional interests include leadership development for women, establishing policies that best serve trans and
nonbinary people in higher education, education public policy, and exploring how mindfulness practices may increase a sense of belonging and improve student retention in higher education. Connect with Ewa on and .